Where to ask questions...

There is an update to this article : Self Behavior observation- Tools for introspection

We all have them. Having questions and curiosities is like "nutrition" for the (growing) Human mind.  This article is specifically referring to questions which are more Philosophical in nature rather than informative (factual).  Although philosophy itself can be called the process of  "Fact or truth finding". One can read this Wikipedia article for understanding the difference.

Why is asking those questions so important ? Well, because otherwise the growth that happens (if any) will not be monitored. The person who does not guard his/her own growth, will grow involuntarily and will not be able to "pave" his/her own path.  To understand this better, let us take an example of a weed as compared to a carefully planted sapling.  

Both will "grow" but there is a huge difference in their growths :

- Weed will grow by itself but will not be of any use to itself or anyone else. Plant on the other hand will be carefully cultivated.

- Weed will be most often seen as a nuisance by the other members of the society. But plants often get loved and respected by people.

- When the plant grows into a tree, it lives a life of service to the society and thus living a life of purpose. Unlike weeds.

- Plants, unlike weeds will have beautiful flowers, smelling great, they are a treat to the
senses too.  :)

No ! Plants (as much as we know) are not capable of this "awareness" , but we humans are !!!  

The Question :

Am I growing into a weed OR  a useful plant ? 

(might be a harsh, yes, but asking it is important for self development).

Anyone who examines, re-examines and tries to find answers for life's problems, will definitely have a life of purpose.  And the purpose here is not to reproduce, and have have children well settled, earning more and more money, But the reference here is to a greater purpose than that.
If one finds it, happiness will come following that  "Sense of purpose in life". To understand this, you may choose to go ahead and read this article in psychology today.

Once we understand the significance of questions in our life, the next step is where to go for the answers ??  How to find them ??

Life is surely difficult.  Most people do not have the time and/or the mental energy to ponder on things and "questions" like this.  Also technology today, has given us a great tool to find answers -  the Internet and the Search Engines !!

Search engines are a great tool, it has been such a life saver for school and college projects ! The Internet has given us almost everything we need  ?? Think again,  EVERYTHING ??

There are things that no one can give to us, except ourselves.  That is the reason why, when  we seemingly have all things in life, we still remain unhappy or discontent. Happiness comes but goes away quickly again.  

If we want permanent, satisfying answers to life's harsh realities, we must seek the answers inside of us, not in the outside world. In fact the more one begins to depend on self for finding "the answers", the more  that person will grow.  Just to point out, Meditation might be a great tool for this  - growing into a flowering plant that gives relief to all senses.

There is immense joy in working on our own problems ourselves.  No one, absolutely, no one can answer your questions for you the way you can !! Yes people can help you, but only you can find  the ultimate answers.

Conclusion : If you want a more satisfying experience of life, begin to find the answers "inside" your mind, yourself.

The path might be difficult, but once the destination is found,  It is the garden of Eden......nothing like it  !!

Be sure to try it sometime. Whether you are beginning or are already on the way, no matter, please click "comment" below and share your experiences and thoughts.

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Three preliminary steps to finding "peace of mind"

Each being in this world , only desires one thing - "Happiness". He tries and tries multiple ways to achieve the simple little things in life. And happiness does come, but goes away soon. Thus the effort for achieving "something" begins once again !!!  This is a never ending process.  

This race with self, time and the world can be understood in technical language as 

 "self actualization".    Some people know it as "Nirvana"

And every being, somewhere deep inside, drives for  it. Even if they are not specifically aware of it.

This is an effort to grow and motivate  others grow...grow Together.

To COGNIZE  is to perceive, become conscious, grow - check it on Dictionary.com

Preliminary Steps for finding 

peace of mind  (and Hence, the goals of this place) :

- To "think" , think and think

Choosing to think and ponder over issues means that one has chosen not to ignore them. If one chooses to deliberately think about things, in the end, they will always find the "true" answer to the questions and issues at hand.

- To "question" our own beliefs and that which are widespread in the society.

   To simply accept what is going on around oneself and inside oneself is not like a "growing person". Beliefs are formed  due to many factors. It is a sign of a "mature mind" that  they learn to question their own beliefs again and again.

Because, what was true yesterday in a given situation might not be true today, the situations might have changed. The goal is to be skeptical of everything and accept them only after inspection.

To keep up with the "law of change" one has to keep questioning belief systems.

- To "analyze"  life and every aspect that touches it.

    Thinking about and questioning all aspects of life is a part of analysis. However to complete the process in a proper manner one has to be able to do it in an "Un-Biased" manner. Being unbiased, truthful and honest to self is very important in this search for the reality, the truth.

Therefore , in the midst of a busy, stressful life to find a way for  "Self realization".

Remember, these are the very basic and preliminary steps to finding peace. If you follow these steps, at first you might be facing trouble, but at the end of the road, you WILL find peace, provided, you are prepared to walk till the very end. There are no gains without pains  :)

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Valentina !!

Just a few hours back , I was writing about the variety of Human psyche . Now I came across an amazing story that I could not miss because it showed the positive side of Human psyche. While there are some who are busy with the work of destruction, there are others who indulge into such Humane behaviors that no amount of thank you in enough for them ! That also reminds of the story of tiger and Tim, these are exactly the kind of people that  Tim was referring to in his conversation with the Tiger.

Getting to the point, some gentle human beings were in the seas of Mexico when they came across a Humpback whale who appeared to be dead. Then they realized that the Whale (whom they called Valentina, since this was on Valentine's day 2011) was not dead but was entangled in a fishing net put by some people obviously on the other side of the human psyche continuum ! Now they had the task to free her from the highly entangled fishing net as soon as possible, but all they had was a small knife as a tool. They had the whole thing filmed, and I have provided that video below. You can see the whole story of the rescue of Valentina. The reward of this hard and dangerous work came at the end when they actually saw Valentina celebrating her new Life and freedom ! What real Joy was that to me too, and I am sure you will love watching her jumping high in waters. Truly,Valentina proved that life and freedom are absolutely priceless !!!

And by the way, the people who helped Valentina save her life were no Ordinary people. They are from an organisation called "Great Whale Conservancy" . So they are continuously working towards saving the whale population. The co- founder of this organisation Michael Fishbach was also involved in this rescue, thank you all you great men and women !

People who like to "HEAR" the "famous singing" of these majestic creatures can use this link to the National geographic.

Attack On Mumbai

Many families who were already suffering in the pains of having lost their loved ones by brutal murder in the name of religion are now joined by some more !!! How helpless do we feel in such situations.I am referring to the terror attack on Mumbai on July 13, 2011. Three blasts took place all within about 10 minutes and in very crowded and important places of Mumbai - Opera house, Dadar west and Zhaveri bazaar. 

It takes years to construct  but only a few seconds to destruct ! Sometimes I wonder at the variety of Human Psyche. There are some who go beyond everything to keep Humanity alive, others just live to earn money not necessarily being bothered by other's pains. But there has to be some "brain Virus" that some actually feel content after killing the people innocent and unknown. Whatever the mission is, is it greater than the Conscience ? Some people have a highly awakened conscience, some can have  an idle conscience but these guys seem to have no conscience !!

With time though at least some things have changed for the good. Now with the advent of technology and with increased reach to it, people are finding new ways of helping each other in times of crisis. 

I came to know that this time people used social networking site "Twitter" to help those in dire need of it.From passing emergency contact information to. posting  urgent messages like "B positive blood required at so and so hospital". I got to know about this news from an Indian news channel called  "CNN IBN". But it not just CNN IBN that reported this but also other major channels like Star news , The times of India .

This was an emergency situation alright. But at other times too a helping hand was offered aided by technology and such efforts are more than  noticeable.Like in Facebook, I keep coming across some altruistic groups who not only gather people and make online communities for different causes but also Raise money for charity ! So they almost work like Virtual NGOs. 

As much as I feel sad about the people who lost their family members, from the medium of this write up I also want  thank all those people involved in the good work from wherever and however possible. If you the reader were also the one who helped, Thank you ! 

A Tiger in the woods...

My friend Tim shared with me this conversation that he recently had with a tiger in the woods. Tim had forgotten to take a weapon and got lost in a jungle.They both were trying to reach a conclusion through this dialogue. I thought of sharing it over here with all, just so that all mature humans can consider both perspectives :




Tiger : (finding Tim) Looks like I am going to have a feast today !




Tim :  Oh no no, please let me go, I have a family. Besides look I am here without a weapon. I wasn't here to kill anyone.




Tiger: Do you think I am fool ? You human beings do not even spare each other, how do I believe you had plans to spare us incase you came face to face with one of us. You must have forgotten the gun at home. I know your brothers have been killing my brothers mercilessly many times for joy and sometimes for fear. We only kill for need not for greed ! Last month alone two of my brothers were burnt alive and my sister was beaten to death in your community !




Tim : Dont you see, they should have not come to our place, We get scared to death in your presence, and we have the right to defend our families and friends. (Tim easily evades the answer to hunting).




Tiger : And why do you think they had gone to your place ?? Certainly not to have a feast with you ! You humans destroyed our home...if you do that, where do we go ? Left with no choice for shelter or  food sometimes, some of us wander away to Unsafe places... just like you have wandered today. Given the superior brains that you guys have,and the ability to plan and progress,  wouldn't it be good that you help us instead of killing our families ? Do you not feel the slightest of guilt for what you do ?




Tim : not all Humans are so insensitive. There are some who are enough God fearing to let you be safe while also taking care of their community. There are many in my community who are involved in helping animals. The news about "Saving Tiger" is now making rounds in human communities.Don't you know a about it ?




Tiger : Yes I know there are some who have dedicated their life to us too (indirectly it benefits the humans too). But we are still being killed for the reasons but GREED - taste, hobby, what you call a sport, commerce and what not ! Why should I spare you ??




Tim : If you kill me, tomorrow this will be the news ! And your community will get a bad name. Think about it.




Tiger : I know, if we kill for  hunger which is a need, we get a bad name and if you kill for greed, that is justified. Just because we Do not have a voice, money, fame or Vote, do we deserve this injustice ? We still have emotions, we are still capable of feeling hurt.
When you kill our babies in front of our eyes, CAN YOU IMAGINE WHAT WE GO THROUGH. I am not referring to any isolated cases...your people do this on a regular basis !




TIM : Oh Tiger, I know there are lots of Unethical behaviors that my community does on a regular basis to your animal community  (and to human community itself). But believe me, I knew about  hunting for food and pleasure but I wasn't really aware of the other things that you mentioned ! Killing babies in front of mothers ! GOSH !




Tiger : Okay, I can believe you on that, no don't get surprised !  I know since we do not have a voice, there are few to whom this thought would occur. The welfare of animals is anyways something most of you people looked down upon, as something not as necessary.


With all this talk, I now feel depressed thinking about my lost friends and family. I spare you ! GO Away, leave us alone in our little home. WE DO NOT ASK FOR MUCH. Just the right to live with Dignity.




TIM : We humans are so lost in worrying about our life or partying that we seldom think about the consequences of our actions on this world that we live in. Look, I have been used to eating animals and hunting  since childhood. Today as I came across you, needless to say for the first time in my life, I AM GETTING AN INSIGHT  as to really how mature and intelligent animals can be !


This experience has changed me as a person for ever !




Tiger : Now that's what we call  true HUMAN ABILITY. We know you guys alone are capable of HIGH LEVEL THINKING, and no one can change the world the way you can. But you simply don't make the full use of your potential. I am glad you at least think that this experience changed you. See if you can pass this information to others. YOU WILL DO A GREAT FAVOR TO MOTHER EARTH.

Tim : Tiger friend, do you know we have a huge organisation of international fame called "United nations". I heard they have reported saying that our non-veg diet is ONE MAJOR CAUSE OF GLOBAL WARMING. Now when I go back to my home, I will make it a point to spread the word around and may be even join some other people who are trying to do some good to the world.




Tiger : Okay then, I will go my way..




Tim an Tiger both go away their ways, none ditches the other's trust :)  

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Mothers Who Were Never Pregnant !!

The word I like to utter again and again and again non stop is "mummy" or "mommy" . This word by itself is very sweet. I think most of you will agree with me ?

What makes the word so sweet.. the sound of it ? I think it is the feeling that the word gives us just as we utter it that makes it so beautiful. The feeling of being cozy, being in a very safe place - her laps, being loved and kissed endlessly :) Who will not like to be cared like this ? Without doubt nobody on earth can replace mothers :)

But who is a mother ? The woman who gives birth to a child ? I think there is more meaning to this word. I have seen many people working tirelessly towards fulfilling needs of others who were not necessarily born to them. Many a times it is as selfless and unconditional too. So what if they have not given birth to the one they care for, I think it is motherly love and care that matters the most. Sadly, many times society does fail to realize the importance of many such people living in their very neighborhoods. I think, They need to be respected and loved just like a mother is respected and loved. In fact, I think most of you will agree that this kind of motherhood is much more difficult. Consider how easy or difficult it is it to be around a very ill person (who is not your biological child) and is bedridden for a few days and needs someone to be there with them ?

Social workers - Who are not working for money, contribute their psychological and physical resources to taking care of any particular given group. Yes, sometimes altruism is not the sole motivating factor for some, but why should the rest be punished ?Many social workers actually undergo tremendous pain in life for the work that they do for the needy . Yet sometimes fail to get recognized for their sacrifices and selfless motives !! I think recognition of their efforts is very important for the benefit of the society.

In fact many cultures like Christianity and Hinduism even have words like "Mata" (means mother in Hindi) and "Mother" referring to non biological mothers.Well, The first name that comes to my mind is Mother Teressa.

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Is this really a virtual world ? - Dedicated to Indian Home Maker and her daughter "Tejaswee"

I have always been calling the internet the virtual world. The friends I made there, I called the friends of the virtual world. Most often I do not meet face to face with my friends of the virtual world. With some such friends I share lots of interests, habits and hobbies too.We make all kinds of friends on the internet, some get more connected to us some are less connected. But there are some people who have something in them which allows other people to trust them more. I had no idea that the bonds with people whom we have not seen or spoken can be so strong !!

Only yesterday night when I came to know about the death of one of my blogger friend's teen aged daughter , I realized this.The Indian Home Maker (popularly called IHM), a very liked and famous blogger. Tejaswee was her daughter. I did not know her name, I never saw her. When yesterday night I came to know of this recent tragedy in her life, I suddenly realized how much I felt connected to her.This was the first time I saw her daughters face, came to know about some facts of her life.

From what I know of IHM through her posts, her thoughts and her conversations with me , I am sure Tejaswee was one person whom we all desperately needed with us here. It is difficult to explain how I felt. I then introspected about my connection with IHM and decided to write about it.

Two of Tejaswee's writings that I liked the most, I am creating a link for them.

1. A letter to the future (that she wrote for her future daughter).

2. On growing old and dying early.

No matter what I do , what I say, I know I cannot reduce your pain IHM...I just want you to know that I too am one of the many persons who love you for the kind of person that you are. I want to share your pains with you.

How many of us humans would dare to do this ?

I am posting this article to my blog after a long gap.  But this post has been to my mind for quite some time. This is something that I could not and did not want to forget or take for granted. As I was reading the newspaper one day, I came across this news in a tiny section of the news paper. This was in Chandigarh, when a shanty caught fire. There were two kids in the shanty and the pet dog who was in fact tied up with a leash. It seems there were also two other older kids who managed to flee that burning shanty. As the dog realized the danger to his master's two kids, he jumped into the burning shanty to save them. He succeeded in dragging the kids out of the shanty but unfortunately, the kids couldn't be saved later in the hospital !! This poor baby too got hurt in the whole process.

The stories of animal loyalty towards human begins are not new...we have heard a lot of them many times. This one being the newest and the also one of the most dramatic. I mean he even risked his life !! ?  

The questions that came to my mind were:

•  How many of us human beings would really have the intention and/or courage to do that ? 
• And, Do we give them their share of respect and dignity in return ?

Readers who would like to  check this story online can do it Here.

Are you reluctant to critics and critisism ?

What's your most common reaction to criticism  directed towards you?

Some people associate being critical with being less faithful , less sincere and such other negative feelings. But the question at hand is that is it really so ?

Personally for me, I have noticed when someone/something is very near and close to me I feel more free to be critical of that person or thing. For example, Let me begin with myself .. I think I am biggest critic of my own personality, and I do this purposefully in order to grow. No criticism , no growth for me (But I also remember to take care of the positive points). Same holds true for my loved ones, my work, some of  my close friends, and everyone/everything that I think is close to me and is mine !

But  when it comes to giving an ear to criticism it's not that easy for everyone, I guess first we need to analyze if it is really important to us and then we need to also "learn the art of accepting criticism". Since I am such a big critic, It's easy for me to critically analyze all things that are around me. When I do that I am almost always doing it because I love the one I criticize and I do it with the goal of growth in my mind :).  Once I was talking to my friend about my country and it's many shortcomings,  (who I later realized was not so open to listening to my criticism and took it not as a  token of my love for my country but otherwise) where I was comparing it to another  more developed nation...and it was not taken in good spirits of course. Then I gave a thought to the whole situation and questioned myself.... was I wrong ? I have noticed so many people getting on their nerves when they listen to ANYTHING negative about what is their own or what they associalte with their identity.

My question is that if we remain so anti criticism, how the hell on earth do we expect ourselfs to improve ? Then the only other way out is to not improve !!   :) 

There are two major beliefs that are anti criticism :

1. Some people seem to believe that criticizing or listening to any criticism for someone/something that is their own is equal to being unfaithful or insincere. Such people react very emotionally to criticism and are less likely to "GROW"  from it. For example : I know of a man who just knows many of his fathers shortcomings but always denies them when confronted. 

2. Some people believe that Criticism is something that is negative and bad. They have probably always overlooked its benefits and uses.

Some points in this regard to consider :

1. We all play the critics at some point or the other for someone or the other.

2. Criticism can be difficult to accept (at least immediately) but if taken in the right spirits can be really helpful in the development process.

3. All criticisms are open to either acceptance or rejection but before accepting or rejecting a piece of criticism, we need to analyze it RATIONALLY.


4. Those who can accept criticism and give a thought over it, are most likely to be very confident people.


5. Criticism as a growth technique should not be offered (or should be sparingly offered) to people who have a low self image or a low confidence as it might lead to more problems instead of help !

I found this article on ehow about  how to deal with criticism , for anyone who might be interested.

By the way, this blog and the blog post/s are open to critics and criticism, In fact they are welcome !!!  :)

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How these kids helped another "kid" in need...

I got these pictures through a friend, worth having a look J

Don't we want every child that we come accross , to be

as sensitive and as humane as these adorable kids ? J

The Indian daughters in Law: What goes wrong in the adjustment process after marriage?

When a girl gets married in India, there is one most common piece of advice given to her.

“You have to adjust in the new environment that you are moving to. It is your responsibility that you keep everyone in your new family happy”.

Then as she enters her new home which is often a completely unfamiliar and unknown environment, all the eyes are set on her, all expectations are made from her and her only. She is judged and rated at every step that she takes [even on things that she cannot change. For example her physical features]. The fact is that because the girl is often very nervous and less experienced to know all the “rules”, it is natural for her if she makes some silly mistakes or fails to come up to the many expectations from her.

The Question:

Is it the only the newly wed girl’s responsibility to adjust to the change which came about by marriage? Is the family that she newly became a part of, not equally responsible for it?

When a marriage happens (especially in the Indian context) it is not only the couple who is undergoing a change of life. It is often the whole immediate family members who are entering a new phase of life. Because there is a change in everybody’s life, it might be rational to say that everybody should be equally responsible for taking the plunge into the adjustment process and not just the new bride. In reality, the newly wed girl is responsible for this adjustment and if anything goes wrong, she is held for it without any major thought given to the situation. It is worth noting that anyone in the family who is “genuinely interested” in having a happy family and life long of sweeter relationships, should take his/her share in this adjustment to change.

Some points worth noting in connection to the above question:

1. Often in a marriage the girl who has just got married is in a minority position. She has to face a majority of people in her new family.

2. The girl is likely to be young, less experienced and nervous.

3. If the adjustment process will be shared by everybody in the family equally, the adjustment and the relationships will be highly likely to be much better.

4. It is irrational and baseless to have one sided expectations when the relationships are always two/multi sided.

I am sure you too, like me have seen so many families which end up breaking or end up having most the bitter relationships. May be this is one major reason for it ? What do you say ?

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Dealing with Individual Differences.

It all Began when Shekhar refused to be present in the pooja organized in his home by his religious parents. “Mummy, I respect your sentiments completely, please go ahead with it if this is what gives you satisfaction. But don’t force me to be a part of it. This is what he told his mother.

Shekhar believes in a “rational” approach to life. For him doing something the meaning of which he does not understand (partially or completely) creates a conflict within him. But for his parents it is like keeping the age old traditions alive. Though Shekhar has no problem with keeping the traditions alive but he simply cannot do something that does not come from his heart and mind!! Incidents like this often become major family issues for Shekhar and his parents and lead to serious quarrels between them. This continuously makes the family members more distant from each other. The matter of argument is not always a religious ritual; this happens in many others aspects of life.
Similarly, Shraddha always has a tussle with her husband over keeping the house clean. Her husband Vijay believes in living a relatively carefree life while Shraddha is a thorough perfectionist! So every other day they keep arguing as to “which is a better way to live”??

All of us go through similar experiences everyday (if not the same) . Most of these issues that we have in everyday life with people around us can be put into one category – “problems in adjusting to Individual differences”. I am sure; it will be difficult to find a (normal) adult who does not know that all people are different. It is a well know fact that ALL PEOPLE DIFFER from one and other not just in the physical characteristics but also in the psychological characteristics. Therefore we all are bound to behave differently.

Then WHY do we have so much a problem in adjusting to these differences?? OR shall I put it the other way – When almost all normal adults have the knowledge that people are different and are bound to behave differently, then what makes it so difficult to accept these differences in the significant other?

Clearly this knowledge is not enough. Probably, what is required is the “AWARENESS” that all people are different (like in many other matters concerning life too) and the “ART of dealing with them”.

I see one major cause of this maladjustment:

Both parties experience some kind of a threat (more often psychological in nature) which stops them from accepting the other person’s opinion(s) or differences. This threat might be in different forms – may be one or both are protecting their own egos, or may be they are facing an internal conflict like Shekhar, might be a question of self esteem either low or high , the threats can be of many varieties. In other words, when people are in situations like these it’s likely that they are facing an internal fear of some unwanted consequence.

As we face the threat the immediate reactions for most people are arguments, frustrations and quarrels. Clearly the consequence of this method of dealing with the differences is not very constructive, because this way of dealing with it leads to other problems and maladjustment. This way is clearly not going to be helpful to anyone in the long run. We need to make sure that we deal with these differences in such a way that they are mentally and physically healthy for us (and the other too). We all need to honestly introspect as to “how many” such threats do we face everyday and even more importantly “how do we deal” with these threats mostly.

Sometimes the threat can be really very serious like for example the threat to life from a terrorist who probably believes that his religion is under threat from the rest of the world and finds this as the best way to deal with his internal threat. But, in everyday life the threat is not always as big as we perceive it to be. If only we understood this, I believe that many of our daily disputes will be so much under our control.

I have seen at least one woman namely Maya (name changed) for whom this phenomena of Individual differences drastically changed her entire life and for ever!! Maya was a well educated girl from a highly educated family. She happened to get married to a man arranged by her family and shifted into another Indian city. This is about those days when most Indian girls used to be much more submissive and getting into an inter-caste and/or love marriage was a taboo So people would marry a person chosen by their parents and would not dare to actively choose their life partner. (As is the case even today in many Indian cities and mindsets). Maya’s came from a very educated and a broad minded family into an orthodox and relatively much narrow minded joint family. The two families were exact opposites!! Maya not being so “aware” of her position had no idea as to what is happening in her life and how to deal with this situation. Her in-laws equally or may be even more unaware carried on with the “ego attacks” not realizing that the new girl at least needs some time to understand the new family, if not more !! (I will come to his topic of adjustment of a newly married Indian girl into the new family and life in another article later on). For Maya and her in-laws this maladjustment to the individual differences resulted in a life long of bitter relationships and unresolved problems.

How we wish, people took a little more effort to introspect and correct their mistakes. Or even better, may be prevent them!!

So then how can one adjust to these individual differences? May be one can consider the following:

1. First and foremost, one should be “willing” to adjust to these differences in the most constructive way. (As is required for most adjustment processes).If the person is willing, he/she should be motivated to work towards resolving it in a better way.


2. One must be AWARE that individual differences exist and that they are 100% natural phenomena. Just like I cannot change the fact that the sun rises in the east and sets in the west, whether or not I like it, similarly I also cannot change the fact that all personalities are different, were always different and will always be different. J


3. One should “Accept and Respect” these individual differences. If, we notice carefully, we find that the major problem of the world if not that we are different from each other but that there is a “lack of acceptance and respect” for the opinion of other people. No matter how different the opinion of the other is, it is better for at least one or both the parties to learn to accept and respect them as their opinion. Though our point might be very strong, valid and justified for us, the other person too is equally justified, and valid in his/her eyes.

4. Respect and acceptance will come only after one learns to deal with the psychological threat that one is facing within. So, one has to examine and analyze the threat within so as to be able to deal with it better. After all, the earth will not stop rotating if things do not happen the way I desire!!


5. Like any other art, this needs time and practice too, so try try till u succeed in handling individual differences better.


Thanks for reading, your comments are welcome!!